I read your post with concern and compassion. I am fully sympathetic to any complaints regarding people not feeling safe here. To me, it is top priority that bullying does not occur and that people feel safe to participate on StereoNET forums. We are a community of like interest and what is supposed to be a fun hobby, so to bully participants is an horrendous outcome. The community will invariably attract many personalities including those without high confidence, either technically or socially, and those without combative inclination, who look in mild horror at big personalities locking horns and dismissing one another and using debating tricks and point scoring, etc etc. It is entirely likely that getting belittled or mocked here could bring on episodes of mental conditions for some people. And I contend that a kind and gentle community needs to take them into account too.
I am also aware that you probably read the above while thinking, "but you are part of that problem, Newman, have you no self awareness?" And now you have your answer: I do indeed. And I hope -- very sincerely -- that my most obstreperous posts are reserved for situations where others are also loud and bold and outspoken.... and in their case, wrong, and recalcitrant.
But I am sincere in my first paragraph. And would like to make a special comment on your request for "acknowledgement and respect for the experience others." Everyone is entitled to that IMO, yet some of that acknowledgement must consider that hifi experiences are routinely mistaken, or actually, misdirected. Hifi, as a listening experience, has a peculiar dimension to it, which is at the core of a lot of disputation. Specifically, that when we listen, some of the impression we gain of a listening experience is independent of the sound waves. And I don't mean "ah, this pleasant red is enhancing my enjoyment of the music". I mean much more directly than that, where our perception process convinces us that some component or change in the playback system is causing an audible (better or worse) change in the sound waves, even when it isn't. In fact, this process is so strong, that we can routinely become convinced of an improvement when things have actually gotten sonically worse, and vice versa. (And please don't debate this as 'my opinion' -- it is not my opinion so much as what the evidence says).
If you think about it, this is pretty dramatic for this hobby's popular side-pursuit of component analysis. One has to be very careful in what one claims is due to a change in the sound waves. We are all prone to be routinely grossly mistaken if we think that uncontrolled listening has any credence as a method for determining the sonic merits of a component.
Which brings us to your request for acknowledgement and respect for the experiences of others. Granted. But. In turn, people posting such experiences could return the favour and show some acknowledgement and respect for the scientific understanding of human perception, and what that means about the (lack of) reliability of the experiences that they are relating here. Acknowledgement that -- to put it clearly -- these uncontrolled listening experiences are literally worse than nothing when it comes to assessing the merit of a component.
I don't notice much of that acknowledgement when people post their listening experiences. After all, it almost makes the relating of one's experience assessing components pointless. Which take all the fun out of it. Well! Hmpf!
So people gaily go ahead and post their experiences of some pretty dubious technology, as if the technology is definitely causing all sorts of sonic outcomes in the sound waves in the air. Again and again and again and again and again this happens. The readers who understand how perception works read it all and they know what has probably (extremely probably) happened here. And they might know that, in an ideal world, they should respond by posting some long variety of all I have written above -- but, seriously? So, they choose a sarcastic one-liner instead - which is unfortunate, but kind of understandable, especially if the listening experience was related in a particularly cocky and arrogant manner regarding causes and effects.
A lot of this could have been avoided with thorough, controlled listening tests of every single component or tweak, but that is an unreasonably massive task for the casual hobbyist, and one the industry has zero stomach for, since (I can say with extreme confidence) almost every single scientifically-curious product will turn out to have no perceptible effect on sound waves -- or worse.
So most hifi hobbyists want to say things here that are completely indefensible, but they want to be treated gently while they insist that they are right when challenged, even getting defensive and stroppy along the way. And indeed, you are right, they should be engaged kindly, but how hard is it if they are not to bring a learning mentality and attitude to joining the community, some of whom really know their stuff. It takes two to avoid treading on toes in a tango.